How to have mind blowing G-spot Os
I teamed with Lelo and the Gigi3 (Yes, the GIGI!) to give you the low-down.
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Hey babe,
The G-spot has long found itself in a place of controversy. To this day experts disagree if it even exists (it does).
The G-spot has been immersed in falsehoods, cast into the wrong anatomical locations, and used as a tool to reaffirm the validity and overall “betterness” of heteronormative sex for as long as we’ve known about it.
Female anatomy has long been neglected. We didn’t even know about the full internal structure of the clitoris until the 1990s. THE 90s! The medical and scientific communities have only really recently started giving the female body the attention it deserves – and tbh, it is still not great.
While we have basically always been confused and ill-informed about how female orgasm works. We’ve been led to believe that the only kind of orgasms worth having are internal orgasms – not true.
So, let’s take some time to break down the myths and the facts. With the help of Lelo and the Gigi3 G-spot vibrator – we’re going to take a deep-dive into this pleasure area and shed some light on the breadth of pleasure we can all experience.
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Here is everything you need to know about the G-spot, from finding it, to stimulate it, to enjoying it.
The G-spot is more than a just a spot
“G-spot” is a nice, simple way of explaining a complicated piece of human anatomy. “Spot” simply doesn’t do it justice. While there is still research being done and new information is still coming to light, we have gotten a pretty clear view of what the G-spot really is.
Namely, that it is not a spot, it is an area.
It is the tissue, nerves, and ducts surrounding the urethral sponge and canal. This is also known at CUV – or the clitoral, urethral, vaginal complex. Among its many glands and ducts is the Skene’s Gland, which fills with an alkaline fluid during G-spot stimulation. At the time of orgasm (or even before orgasm for some vulva-owners), the fluid is released, aka: “squirting.”
Not every vulva-owner squirts, but we all have these glands. You can also squirt when this area is stimulated due to the proximity and involvement of the urethral sponge. Is there a bit of pee in squirt? Sometimes. Is that a big deal? Not really.
The G-spot is part of the entire clitoral network. You heard that correctly. The G-spot is part of the CLITORIS! It is the back of the clit, or the apex, which is located internally.
To locate this area, insert two fingers into the vaginal canal and hook them up towards the belly button, behind the pubic bone. Make a come hither or rocking horse motion. It should feel like a walnut textured patch. But don’t be afraid to move about and feel around to really engage it.
The clit itself is much larger than that bump you see at the very top of the vulva. The clit extends inside the body up to five inches in some women. It is often the same size as your average penis. The clit is actually analogous to the penis. If you flipped it outside of the body, you would see a ton of similarities. Human bodies are wonderful and very strange things, indeed.
Vaginal and G-spot doesn’t mean thrusting to oblivion.
If you’re thinking that the G-spot should make penetration-only orgasms possible, you’re actually not correct about that.The G-spot is not exclusively related to hetero-sex. In fact, a penis isn’t really the right shape for G-spot stimulation. Sure, in some cases it is – but this is the exception, not the rule.
Penises or phallic-like dildos aren’t curved (usually). Remember the hooking up motion when finding the G-spot? Well, popping something in there and hoping for the best just isn’t going to achieve very good results. Since the G-spot, or G-spot area or CUV, is located behind the pubic bone, a curved wand or fingers are more aptly shaped for this type of stimulation. Oh, the joys of sex toys, amiright? Gigi3 G-spot vibrator is my absolute go-to for this kind of play.
Let’s dismiss the old myth that a penis alone is going to make you come like a waterfall. That is simply not how a vagina or clitoris or G-spot experience orgasm.
Of course, there will be some vulva owning people who can have orgasms this way. All bodies are different. But for the vast majority of us, it’s not the case.
The clit is central in all of this
Never, ever forget who is the shining star in this glorious mayhem: The clitoris.
If you are a person who comes during penetrative sex or intercourse with a penis or dildo, the G-spot is probably not the reason. Studies have shown that female-bodied people who have orgasms during penetrative sex most likely do so because of the proximity of the vaginal opening to the glans clitoris (the part you can see).
If your vaginal opening is 2.5 centimeters or less to the glans clitoris, your chances of having orgasms during intercourse are highly increased. This does not occur because suddenly the vagina magically the center of pleasure. You orgasm because your partner’s pelvis, dildo, wand, fingers, or penis is unintentionally (or maybe intentionally) pressing up against the glans clitoris.
It is possible that your G-spot could be stimulated during all of this penetration, but it’s more likely that your external clitoris is the central figure in your orgasm. Whether your clit is close to your vaginal opening or not, external stimulation of the clit is needed.
Why people love having their G-spot stimulated
The G-spot is connected to lots of nerves in the body – especially the clitoris. Internal stimulation feels so good for some vulva-owning people because it stimulates the surrounding clitoral tissues. It also stimulates the nerves that connect the perineum, anus, vagina, etc. This is basically the entire groin region.
The brain picks up the signals from these nerves and releases dopamine and positive neurochemicals into the body. And this can feel really, really good. And even lead to orgasm for some folx.
The truth: Not every person with a G-spot has G-spot orgasms (and that’s ok!)
When you look at anatomy, every female-bodied person has a G-spot. While this is technically true, it does not mean everyone with a G-spot will have G-spot orgasms. Vulva-owners have complex anatomy and our experience of pleasure is dynamic.
In fact, not every clit-owner even likes having their clit stimulated directly. Some people prefer G-spot only stim, nipple only stim, or some combination of a bunch of different things. Every single person and every single body is different and enjoys different things.
How to stimulate and enjoy the G-spot
There are a few different ways that G-spot stimulation can be utilized for more intense orgasms.
First, figure out if internal stimulation works for you. Use a G-spot toy (like the Gigi3) or fingers and massage the area. Try moving in circular motions, up and down, or even applying pressure (you can actually pull someone by their G-spot because it is hooked behind the pubic bone).
If you find this kind of stimulation sexy, play around with it. When we practice and allow ourselves to experiment, we can discover all kinds of amazing things.
If you need some toy recommendations, you know Lelo has you covered. The Gigi3 is the ultimate G-spot wand and I cannot recommend it enough. Use code GIGI3 for 10% off your purchase.
Explore with different pleasure settings and movements. Listen to your body and see what works out for you. Masturbate! The easiest way to explore your body is by yourself. Treat yourself to some toys (like the Gigi3, wink wink). Enjoy the time you get to have with yourself. Embrace the journey.
Get your partner in on the action
Next, try a G-spot wand with a partner. You may enjoy pinpointed internal stimulation wherein the wand is placed and pulled in one spot. You might also enjoy more widespread stimulation of the G-spot area. Don’t be afraid to experiment.
Another great way to use G-spot stim is in tandem with external clitoral stimulation. While your partner is licking or sucking your clitoris, insert your Gigi3 G-spot vibrator into the vagina and gently put pressure on the G-spot. If you want more, say you want more.
To incorporate a vibrating wand, first find a setting that works for your partner. These delightful toys usually have about eight settings, ranging from everything to different patterns to lesser and more intense vibration settings. Take some time to find your sweet spot, the pattern that works for you. The Gigi3 has 8 different settings and a specially designed tip to perfectly simulate this area.
When using toys, always, always, always use lube. Your best bet water-based lubricant, as silicone lube can damage silicone toys.
Before inserting a toy, warm up with external clitoral stimulation using your tongue, lips, and fingers/ Once you’re feeling the sensation in your body, carefully and slowly insert the wand into the vagina. Start shallow and then go deeper – if that feels good for you.
Even still, you might find that internal stimulation just doesn’t do it for you. Sex is one big trial and error experiment. Bodies are so varied that it takes a lot of trying new things and ruling things out to find what really works for you.
Don’t beat yourself up if you’re not into this kind of pleasure. It’s not for everyone. The G-spot is just one of many, many places for pleasure potential.
All orgasms and pleasure are wonderful
There is no such thing as the best kind of sex, the best kind of stimulation, nor the best kind of orgasm. Society may try to box sex into all kinds of nonsensical hierarchies, but pleasure is pleasure.
Listen, no orgasm is better than any other kind of orgasm. Whether you enjoy internal stimulation, external clitoral stimulation or a combination of both (or something else completely), your experience is just as valid. However you find pleasure is right because it is RIGHT for you.
Let’s toss out the idea that a vaginal orgasm during intercourse is the “right” or best” way to experience an orgasm. It just isn’t true.
Do you, no matter what society tries to say. What brings your body pleasure is awesome and you should do whatever it is that feels good.
And you know I just cannot say this enough: Our bodies are complex. The only thing that is normal about human sexuality is its wide variance and lack of normalcy. Find your pleasure and enjoy it in a way that feels authentic for you.
You are wonderful, beautiful, vibrant – and you deserve pleasure!
This week’s mantras:
All orgasms are created equal.
Toys are not replacements, they are enhancements.
I will love myself.
I love you. Have a great week!
XOXO Auntie Gigi
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That’s it for me this week, pals. I love you.
This is so important to know whether you are male or female and why more studies are needed to understand women this is a wonderful start! Thank you!!