How to try edging for stronger Os.

This technique is a tried and true way to get there in stronger fashion, folx.

Jul 14, 2025

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Hey babe,

Have you ever been so close to having an orgasm you can almost taste it? Have you ever been really there, on the cusp, only to have all the pleasure stop immediately?

On purpose?

No? Well, you haven’t tried edging. Let me explain.

From the description above you might think I’m talking about some kind of medieval torture, but it’s actually a very helpful sexual technique. Edging is used to bring the body into the near-ellipse of sexual release, only to bring you back down again … and then back up!

If you’re curious about how to have stronger, longer orgasms, edging could be the practice you’ve been missing out on. Here is how to pull off edging for seriously powerful orgasms.

What is edging?

Edging is a practice that dates back in literature for decades. It’s been called “orgasm control” as well as slow, “drawn-out masturbation.” All of these names have merit. Edging means stimulating yourself in a way that brings you sexual pleasure. This can be through the clitoris, G-spot, nipples, penis, perineum and other erogenous zones or through different combinations of stimuli.

Before reaching “the point of no return,” wherein you lose control and go over the cliff into orgasm, you stop and take a break. After a few breaths, minutes or even hours, you start building up the sensation again. And once again, you stop before climax.

This technique is an excellent way for people to connect more deeply with their body. It gives you the opportunity to focus on what feels good to you and how you like to be touched. If you’ve been experiencing low desire or other sexual issues, edging is an excellent holistic method for regaining sexual energy.

How does it work?

Sexual response occurs in four stages: excitement, plateau, climax (orgasm), and resolution. These aren’t always linear, btw.

It’s thought that edging can make the final release into the ~eventual~ orgasm much more powerful. How it works: When your clitoris or penis is at attention due to the previous stimulation, your body is in an excited state. You are in a perpetual, heightened state of arousal.

With edging, you’re not left without the orgasm forever. Once you come down from the plateau phase a few times, it makes the build up much more intense in some people (aka: a lot of people).

You can bring yourself to the edge as many times as you’d like. For beginners, I’d recommend two to three edges before allowing yourself to climax. You can always experiment with different techniques and pleasure stimuli. This is your body after all!

How to edge alone

You can perfect the art of edging either alone or with a partner. Alone is an easier place to begin, as you are stimulating your own body and therefore know where you are on the pleasure scale.

Use your fingers or a toy. Start with clitoral or penis stimulation. You can use whichever technique you prefer. Try circling the clitoris for a few seconds or minutes before giving it direct stimulation. With a penis, stroke to the point where you feel you’re getting close to tipping. When you feel like you’re close to orgasm, stop.

Wait two or three minutes. Breathe deeply into your body. Then start the process again. Once you do let yourself climax, take note of the depth of orgasm. Was it better than your usual orgasms? Longer? More powerful? The same?

How to edge with your partner

I recommend that if you begin your exploration with your partner, that you make sure they are well-versed in edging. The roadblock many of us run into is not knowing when to stop: Your partner stimulates your clitoris or penis for a little too long, or gets a little too into it and forgets to stop in time.

Not that having an orgasm like this isn’t fun though, right?

If you’re going to try it with a partner, be sure to be very communicative about how you’re feeling. Only you know when you’re going to have an orgasm. Your partner is not a mind-reader. I know, self-control. What an unsexy idea. Trust me, it is worth it.

Do keep in mind that edging doesn’t work for every person. Some people find it exhausting, never reaching that final orgasm. It happens. Edging might even work for you one day and not the next. Bodies are weird. This is just another fun technique for you to explore.

If you love it, great! If it’s not your thing, that’s fine too.

This week’s mantras:

I deserve the best orgasms ever.
My pleasure should always be a priority!
I will love myself.

I love you. Have a great week!

XOXO Auntie Gigi

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