Looking for a super-charged vibr8er? Read this.
When it comes to getting more bang for your buck, there are toy qualities to look out for.
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Hey babe,
Are you a hunny with a need for power when it comes to your sex toys? Respect to you, truly. Some people just want a toy that is Hulk-level powered up and that is a journey I fully support. Whatever gets you there is A-OK. All bodies are different and there is NO shame in needing some extra juice to get loose, ya hear?
But, shopping for toys — when there are SO many different options — can be intimidating. So, what should you look for if you want to get literally blasted into outer space by the sheer force and power of your vibrator?
Here’s what you need to know.
What makes a vibrator extra powerful?
The vibrator:
The most powerful vibrators are, hands down, wand vibrators. These vibrators are designed to really pack a punch. So, if you're in the market for something that offers external stimulation and really packs a punch, go with a wand.
The motor:
The strongest motors will naturally contribute to the strongest vibrators. The best ones will level up in intensity as you move through the settings. This way, you can choose just how strong a vibration you want. If it's too much or too little, you can always click the buttons to go up or down. The strongest of the strong: Wands that plug in, at least historically. We now have wands like Le Wand and the newest Magic Wand models that are barely distinguishable to plug in wands -- which is amazing for travel and versatility.
The type of vibration:
If we're talking pure vibration -- as in, excluding clit sucking toys -- there are two main categories vibrators fall into: Rumbly and buzzy. What people will enjoy will be highly variable and depend on what you're looking for. If you're looking for power, rumbly will be your best bet. By rumbly, we mean deeper my intense vibration. This is what you'll get from the OG sex vibrators that offer the strongest intensity: Wands. Other vibrators certainly can offer rumbly and intense vibration, but if we're singling out power, the wand is the go-to choice.
Tips for using toys with EXTREME vibration.
Use lots of lube. Lube offers a barrier between the very sensitive skin of the vulva and a vibrator. This is key to having enjoyable sensations that aren't overwhelming. You can also put a barrier between the vibrator and the vulva.
You can use a soft tee-shirt, your sheets, or even a duvet. This is actually really great for 'quickies,' as you don't have to fully clean the vibrator after you use it. Definitely experiment with different things to find what works for you. Every single body is different!
Get after what works for you, babe. You’re golden.
This week’s mantras:
There is no shame in needing extra stimulation — even if that means only having orgasms through sex toys. No. Shame. In. It.
I deserve to have pleasure in a way that feels right for me and my journey.
I will love myself.
I love you. Have a great week!
XOXO Auntie Gigi
Catch me on The Poly (Pod)Cast This week talking about unleashing your most authentic sexual self.
We talk about how shame can manifest around sex and sexuality, why it can be so hard to overcome and some strategies to beat it. We also discuss stigmas, stereotypes and hypersexualistion that are often applied to non-monog folk, plus we delve into the power of masturbation.
~Good ReadsSsSssSsSs~
Speaking of sex toys: Have you heard of long-distance toys? These devices have ability to offer a fresh and dynamic approach to shared sexual experiences. The toys, which can be remotely controlled or synchronized with a partner's device, provide a sense of closeness that transcends the digital divide. From app-controlled vibrators to masturbator sleeves, clit sucking toys, and anal plugs, these devices have become a versatile arsenal for couples exploring their sexual preferences together. Read more. - BNN
And more on sex toys! Are you looking fo a rabbit vibrator? Well, look no further. I dropped by The New York Post to tell them all about my very favorite toys this week. They even refer to me as a “best-selling author” which I personally love. Read more. - The New York Post
This How To Do It column made me LOL so hard. Basically, this girl loves sex, is super loud, and her neighbors keep banging on the wall. Poor girl. Poor neighbors. The whole thing was a “we’ve all been there” moment. Read more. - SLATE
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That’s it for me this week, pals. I love you. You’re a supercharged babe and I love it for you.
