Internet S&x Therapy: Could my partner experience pain during an@l? (VIDEO)
Let's get down to business.
NEW VIDEO ALERT!
On today’s episode of Internet Sex Therapy, Gigi Engle tackles a reader question on anal.
Reader question: Can anal sex be harmful for my partner? Are there any long-term or short-term effects?
Firstly: Don’t expect to put something in your partner’s bum if you’re not willing to try the stimulation yourself. It’s not reasonable to expect someone to try anal if you’d never be willing to receive.
What we’ll cover in today’s video:
1. Dispelling myths about anal damage and pain during anal play.
2. The basics of anal play.
3. The importance of communication and using lube.
4. How to have really pleasurable and wonderful anal play.
PSA: Don’t expect to put something in your partner’s bum if you’re not willing to try the stimulation yourself. It’s not reasonable to expect someone to try anal if you’d never be willing to receive.
I "came" to anal play slowly, not being at all sure what it was all about. Certainly, I hoped that it would open new avenues to orgasms of some quality, but how to arrive there? I took it slow, reading quite a bit and learning about the basics--type of lube, insertion manners, expectations--and found, after a few weeks of beginner's errors--that it could be a real source of erotic pleasure (being always careful about what I was doing and the reliability of the butt-plugs I was using). Although long married, I decided to go this route myself, as my wife did not appear too receptive. I've tried graduated sizes and materials and have quivered with anticipatory delight as each new variable arrived in the mail, for "arrival in the male." Glass, steel, and phtalein (??) have their erotic qualities and I am happy to have tried them. You either try marijuana or you don't. Harder drugs are out there and a whole range of equipment that I find NOT appealing, butt within my own erotic compass, I love having something up my ass. Feels naughty and I love masturbating with it! Vanilla and chocolate and all that!