Pride is here is and it's more important than ever.
It's been so long since we marched, it's time to shout out loud.
Hey babe,
Happy Pride Month! What a wonderful time of the year to be a queer person. This is a love letter to all my sweet little queer babies out there from your bisexual agony auntie sexologist. Because I absolutely adore each and every single one of you.
Remember that you are perfect and wonderful just the way you are. With so many horrible, homophobic people out there, it’s more important than ever to stand TALL and be proud. Too many people have been hurt, too many people left without homes and families … and FAR too many queer people MURDERED for simply being who they ARE. Enough is ENOUGH.
Now, let’s talk how this pandemic has messed with us, babe. Being in isolation has been so hard on everyone. I know. I get it. It’s been especially hard on queer folx, those who already rely so heavily on community and a chosen family to feel safe and seen. Being trapped away from the world has brought a lot of mental health issues out for many.
If this is you, you’re not alone. You’re not abandoned. We’ll be together again soon. Hold on, honey. We’re going to make it through this. Reach out to your community, attend online gatherings and happenings, re-read all of the countless posts where I LOUDLY scream (well, write) about how much LGTBQIA+ people MATTER.
YOU. ARE. LOVED.
We haven’t had a march in so long that this month, we need to be PRIDEFUL. More than we ever have before. We need to be vocal, speak up for those less privileged, and protect the people we love.
If you’ve ever been told you’re not perfect just the way you are, little queer one. Bullied, harmed, kicked out, anything - I’ll be your mom. I will. I love you so much. You are so special.
And if you need a giggle because homophobic people are truly so fucking awful and truly the biggest bunch of ignorant assholes on this, the planet earth, here is a FUNNY funny all about that - compliments of my wonderful friend, Shae Harmon (who recently wrote this amazing piece on trans and non-binary people in the mental health industry).
Incidentally, I opened this while crying my fucking eyes out writing this post because I love you all and our community so much I could explode into a zillion shattered pieces of emotion.
This week’s mantras:
I will LOVE MYSELF.
I will protect my boundaries, fiercely.
I will be PROUD.
I WILL LOVE MYSELF THE WAY I AM.
I love you. Have a wonderful week.
XOXO Auntie Gigi
~Good ReadsSsSssSsSs~
The Top Fetishes According to Actual Data
research conducted by Vivastreet, has revealed some of the kinkiest and fairly out there sexual fetishes, and to put it mildly the results are enough to make you blush (in a good way). It seems that people really are a bawdy bunch, with fetishes such as BDSM, swinging, and voyeurism, all revealed as some of the top kinks (in the UK - but let’s face it, this is universal AF). We’re all perverts. Let’s just accept it and enjoy our damn lives without shame. LIVE OUT LOUD, BABY!
Texas Has Found a Creative New Way to Punish Abortion Patients
Mark Joseph Stern explains Texas “heartbeat bill,” Senate Bill 8: “...Texas cannot actually enforce the ban under Roe, which prohibits state officials from banning abortion before viability. But lawmakers believe they have devised a workaround to Roe’s roadblock: Rather than empower state officials to implement the ban, they have granted virtually every private citizen the right to sue anyone who ‘aids or abets’ an abortion after six weeks of pregnancy. The goal is not simply to outlaw abortions, but to terrify and punish patients by bankrupting those who support them.”
Advice A Sex Therapist Wishes She Could Have Given Herself
I think this piece does a nice job of honing in on important things so many of us need to know and understand about human sexuality. One of the most important being that everyone’s sexuality is different. Whether it’s libido, fetish, a preferred sex position, or masturbation habits - there is no “normal.” This is just the truth. And pretending there is a right or wrong way “to do sex” is small-minded and, frankly, stupid.
6 Fun and Creative Oral Sex Positions, According to Actual Sex Experts
I did an interview with Insider where I shared a few of my favorite oral sex positions, from a clinical and, well, personal perspective. You can get all the advice you want from your friends - but sex therapists and sexologists? We have the goods. My personal fav? The sideways 69.
"This easy position is hot because it offers an awesome, up-close view of your partner's genitals," says Gigi Engle, a certified sexologist and sex educator in private practice. Want to learn more? You’ll have to read the article ;)
~Ask Gigi~
Ask Gigi: What Is Edging and How Do You Do It?
Edging is when you tease your partner with oral sex, hand sex, penetrative sex, a sex toy etc. right up until they’re about to orgasm, only to stop right before they come. Then, you start the whole sexual arousal cycle over again once they’ve cooled down. It takes the pressure off of sexual performance, something so many people with penises and vulvas both need to fully enjoy sex.
That’s it for me this week, pals. I love you. No matter what anyone has told you, you are worthy of love, respect, dignity, and pleasure. You deserve happiness and joy. You deserve every good thing in the world. You are treasured and you have a light inside of you that only YOU can ever hold. Never forget that. Stay prideful, baby. You are multitudes.
