Do we really need to try new s-x positions?
Everyone is always talking about this or that acrobatic s-xual feat. But does it even matter?
Hey baby,
The big question today is: why are people so into trying new sex positions?
Everywhere you look on the internet, there are articles on X or Y brand new position that is going to ROCK YOUR F*CKIN’ WORLD. I should know. I’ve written hundreds of them. We are on a never-ending journey to conquer the acrobatic heights of new sex positions.
People are into trying sex positions because they’re the most accessible way to change up a sex routine without the need for outside equipment. You can be the most vanilla, traditional couple in the world and still have more than one sex position in your back pocket.
For instance, maybe you have sex in the missionary position most of the time. And maybe sometimes you switch into the Rider on Top (or Cowgirl) position. It changes up the routine without going into “kinky” or “deviant sexual behavior.” Obviously the assumption that any sexual activity between consenting adults is “deviant” is ridiculous, but you can see what I’m getting at here: sex positions are available to almost everyone.
The other big reason? The quixotic quest to become a sex god, goddess, or deity. There is an ingrained notion in the cultural zeitgeist that if you can master all of these super intense, difficult to do sex positions, you will achieve Ultimate Lover status. This just isn’t true.
Sure, sex positions are fun but you don’t need to do them ALL to be good at sex. Sex positions aren’t about being able to stand on your head while giving a blowie, they’re about being able to explore different ways of experiencing pleasure. This is the real, valid reason to try new sex positions: Enjoying yourself and changing up your sexual routine.
The goal is to experience something new in a way that’ll enhance your sexual experiences.
Trying new sex positions can help to increase intimacy and closeness with a partner. Why? Well, because you’re trying new stuff together and figuring out what works and what doesn’t.
We need to feel safe in our environment and with our intimate partners in order to fully relax into our bodies and enjoy sexual experiences fully. Trying new sex positions in a way that is playful and fun can help to establish and strengthen trust, thus enhancing overall sexual satisfaction.
I don’t recommend trying new sex positions just for the sake of trying them. I recommend trying new sex positions as a means to be adventurous with our lovers and ourselves. It’s an opportunity to figure out what you like and what totally sucks. The more we know about what we like sexually, the better sex becomes.
There is no reason why sex cannot continue to get better and better for your whole entire life as long as both you and your partner(s) come to it with a sense of wonder, empathy, and curiosity.
The bottom line: Experimenting with sex positions is a fun and accessible way to change up your normal routine and spice up your sex life in a fun, silly, awkward, hilarious, hot, and rad way. Be open to new experiences.
So, let’s all buck off and enjoy trying new things - as long as it’s a part of making sex a bigger, more fun adventure that you’re committed to making amazing. You deserve, baby.
This tirade has been a big project I’ve been working on with Kinkly for such a long time. to check out more of the content I’ve produced all about sex positions and everything you should know about them, check out the whole project here.
This week’s mantras:
I do not need to try a million sexual things to be a good lover.
Sexual exploration should be about my joy and curiosity, not pressure to be Amazing At Sex.
Pleasure is my birthright.
I will love myself.
I love you. Have a great week! You won’t be getting any new G-Spots for a few weeks because Auntie G is heading out on holiday - and it is MUCH needed. Yes, I referred to myself in the third person. Get over it.
XOXO Auntie Gigi
~Good ReadsSsSssSsSs~
I Asked My Husband to Take on The Mental Load of Feeding His Own Dog
The author asked her husband to do something to take a chore off of her plate: To handle the task of preparing his dog’s breakfast and dinner. This should be a simple task, yes? Nope. Chaos ensued as one working woman asked her partner to share (not even a little bit equally) in domestic duties. I could not stop laughing (because I was trying not to cry, tbh).
How Do We Bridge The Gender Dating Gap?
The reality is: When you hit your 30s, your matches drop on dating apps. These are the facts of it - the stats that back it up don’t lie. In her newsletter, Anna Sholz interviewed Anne-Kathrin Gerstlauer, who just published a brilliant audio book called “The Gender Dating Gap,” which explores these (depressing) realities. Why are men looking for younger women: Money and power. Yep. It’s true.
And a further query is, is there anything we can do about it?
There are two common reactions [to women who make as much money as they do]: Men who are intimidated and men who feel challenged. Of course there’s lots of middle ground, but those are the two types which cause a lot of frustration.
Navigating My Sexual Desire with My Asexual Partner
Asexuality is a spectrum. When one person makes it clear that their boundaries mean there your relationship won’t include sex - what does that mean for you? This author explores her own sexuality, what it means to her to be sexual, and why sex has such importance in the context of relationships.
But then there was the thunder and lightning — the physical pain of my desire. It shocked me, and it didn’t go away. Sex had always been important to me and my identity as a lesbian. It was fun, therapeutic, and an important gateway to the intimacy I craved with others.
~Ask Gigi~
Ask Gigi: What Even Is a Trouple?
A throuple is a relationship that includes three people - rather than a couple (2 people), there is a third person in the mix. Other words for throuple include triad, three-way relationship, or closed triad. Throuple is adapted from couple - likely to make it a bit more accessible to the general public since these relationships are not the "norm."
That’s it for me this week, pals. I love you. Remember that all pleasure is wonderful and you deserve the very best. Don’t stress yourself out by trying to be The Best At Sex because the keys to being amazing in the sack is excitement and curiosity. Live your damn life. XOXO
