This is how to have a n!ppl3 slorgasm.
Because, yes, they are a thing.
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Hey babe,
Did you know that for some people, having their nipples stimulated (just their nipples!) can feel so intense that they come? OK, we need to talk about nipple orgasms because they are something we should all give a go. Why? It’s simple actually: Exploring our bodies to discover new ways of experiencing pleasure is amazing.
This is a powerful and intense orgasm — that comes from the breasts or nipples. Yeah, they are totally a thing no cap.
Basically: When you’re having your nipples stimulated, the tension and pleasure inside the body starts to build. It builds and builds and builds until BAM, you’re having an orgasm. For some folk, the nipples alone may be enough to get you to the big O, but for others it can be about a combo of stimulation. It can both increase intensity of orgasm when combined with stimulation of the genitals — or even be used to provide an orgasm on its own.
Nipple orgasms happen because our brains and bodies are interconnected in super fascinating ways. Studies have shown that nipple stimulation lights up the same area of the brain that senses contact with the genitals: The genital sensory cortex. Meaning, our brains interpret nipple stimulation as being the same as genital stimulation. When stimulated enough, to the point of no return, this can lead to orgasm for some people.
We can technically have an orgasm through any part of the body, if the pleasure signals from the brain and body are strong enough. Why? Because, as Mintz points out, all orgasms are actually the same. Orgasms come from a build up of tension in the body — with corresponding blood pumping into the genitals. When we reach the peak of sexual stimulation — BAM! — that’s an orgasm. it’s a release of all that yummy tension. Sorry for saying yummy, but not really.
Areas of the body that give us pleasure are ‘erogenous zones.’ These are areas that, when stimulated, cause sexual sensation to be experienced. These might include feet, earlobes, the neck, etc. And nipples are a central erogenous zone for people who enjoy having them played with.
What a nipple O feels like.
All orgasms are unique and no two are exactly alike. So pinning down exactly what a nipple orgasm feels like can be a bit challenging. We can’t be painting with broad strokes when it comes to pleasure.
How it feels will vary, but for some who love their nips touched, the stimulation of the nipples can send intense electric signals through the body – which can feel like tingly bits in the body. And for some, this can be so intense that it triggers an orgasm.
TD;DR: We can’t pinpoint what a nipple orgasm feels like because it will feel unique to every single person having one.
Can anyone have a nipple orgasm?
Technically speaking, if you have nipples, you could potentially have a nipple orgasm, but not everyone does have them. It basically boils down to how we’re wried and if we’re particularly attuned to experience nipple pleasure in this specific way. The stronger the connection between the nipples and geniality (and brain, obvs), the higher the chances are you’ll experience nipple orgasms. This connection may also be strong enough for you to have pleasure, an orgasm, or both.
And for some people, they may feel nothing at all when they have their nips touched. The thing is, we’re all wired differently.
Some people might find that nipple stimulation on its own isn’t enough to induce orgasm, but having it in combination with other forms of sexual stimulation can increase the likeliness (and often intensity) of their orgasms.
And who cares how we’re experiencing orgasms and pleasure as long as we’re experiencing the pleasure, you know?
If your nipples aren’t sensitive, what does that mean for you?
The real talk is: Not everyone has super sensitive nipples. Every single body is different. So, if getting your nipples sucked, licked, and played with does nothing for you, there is nothing wrong with that. If the pleasure signals aren’t being sent from your brain to your genitals by way of the nipples – or that connection just isn’t super strong, that’s normal.
Lots of things can impact nipple sensitivity – such as anxiety, trauma, breastfeeding, or a history of breast cancer – or even just plain old genetics.
You may not have sensitive nipples because, well, you just don’t. Don’t beat yourself up about it. There are so many other amazing ways to seek out pleasure. The nips are fun and all, but they aren’t everything.
How to amplify your nipple stimulation to increase your chances of a nipple orgasm.
Now, if you’re ~simply dying~ to give this a go, there are definitely some ways that you can up your chances.
Start with self-pleasure.
Understanding how your nipples experience pleasure on your own is a key first-step in exploring it with others. Masturbation is how we start to feel centered and at home in our pleasure.
Get to know your breasts.
In order to build the neural pathways that build the association of breasts and nipples with sexual pleasure, we need to take time to really explore the breasts thoroughly. Try different pressures, movements, patterns — and see what works.
And it isn’t about orgasm, actually. it’s about pleasure.
Even though this last part may sound counterintuitive, it’s actually really important. When we go into sexual touch with the expectation of orgasm, orgasms become more elusive. Instead, focus on exploration and following the pleasure. If something feels good, hone in on that sensation and follow it.
Start on the outside and work your way in.
In order to build anticipation and, therefore, the connection between your nips and brain. Start with the breasts and then move on in to the nipples. Slow and steady wins the race.
Get some toys in on the fun.
If you’re interested in giving toys a try, suction toys can be a great nipple enhancement. These toys are ~technically~ designed for clitorises, but can be used anywhere on the body. You can also try out vibrations with your go-to vibe. It's all about getting curious.
Try temperature play.
For those people whose nipples are highly sensitive and respond really well to different temperatures, Moali suggests using ice cubes on the nipples or warming lubes. This can add a unique sensation that increases pleasure.
Enhance your senses.
In order to experience orgasm, we often can employ our other senses to heighten the experience. Try audio erotica or sexy music to enhance the experience and get you more sexually excited. Take time to light candles, lock your doors, and relax.
Combine nipple stimulation with other stimulation.
Nipple orgasms don’t always mean stimulating the nipples alone. In fact, most people will experience nipple orgasms in combination with other stimulation.
All in all, your nipples are an amazing erogenous zone that you shouldn’t sleep on. Go forth and explore.
This week’s mantras:
Pleasure is beautiful.
My pleasure deserves full attention to explore its abundance.
I will love myself.
I love you. Have a great week!
XOXO Auntie Gigi
Part of this newsletter originally appeared on Cosmo.
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That’s it for me this week, pals. I love you. Pleasure is not about the destination all the time. It’s about the experience. Orgasms are grand, but really enjoying yourself is about so much more.
I love Nipple play hmm i want it now
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